tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post1956244597063182807..comments2022-11-16T02:51:09.552-08:00Comments on Me, Myself, and Bride: Choice and TrajectoryJenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10972465903387097782noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-4680901815288379392010-09-20T23:33:40.210-07:002010-09-20T23:33:40.210-07:00You are so right about too many choices being comp...You are so right about too many choices being completely overwhelming.<br /><br />P.s. Sorry I've been away. I've gone and missed everything!Mrs Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03367631935043016430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-57536443069160524382010-09-20T06:25:58.818-07:002010-09-20T06:25:58.818-07:00Interesting thoughts about choice and trajectory. ...Interesting thoughts about choice and trajectory. Our pre-marital counselor told me something when I was all freaked about about "The Right Choice." She said I should re-frame that idea in my head and instead think of choices as just choices, each one with various consequences. You make a choice and then deal with the effects of that choice. She realized the idea of a Right Choice and a Wrong Choice were making me feel unable to make a choice at all (which of course ends up being a choice eventually!), out of fear of making the wrong one. This idea has helped me a lot. (Though I would still say some things are a wrong choice...you know morally or legally bad choices or whatever.) :)Adventures Along The Wayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11338336369653930101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-43980419344757484272010-09-19T15:12:44.921-07:002010-09-19T15:12:44.921-07:00One thing to always keep in mind is that you can a...One thing to always keep in mind is that you can always change your life's trajectory. I feel like there is so much pressure on us to choose a path early in life and stick to it. By the time we are 30 we should have a clearly laid out road map. But that's society's expectations, and we don't have to follow it. If we ever decide, this isn't the direction for me, we can veer in another way.<br /><br />Hopefully this perspective might take off some of the pressure to pick a trajectory. If you remember you can always go somewhere different, it lightens the stress.<br /><br />But it is important that whenever you decide to take a new path, to communicate with your partner. That way both of you are walking the same direction. Because if one person changes course, and the other continues straight, that's when marriages fall apart.Ms. Bunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06985820953743653787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-25590643697887961342010-09-17T21:22:02.600-07:002010-09-17T21:22:02.600-07:00This is such a great post, Jen.
With choices: You...This is such a great post, Jen. <br />With choices: You can't "unknow" how many choices there are for EVERYTHING. You can't convince yourself that you have fewer choices because you're an intelligent girl. <br /><br />All you can do is choose. Do your best to know what there is out there for options and live with the "meh" of it all after. <br /><br />Have you read Blink by Malcolm Gladwell? Great book that suggests we make just as good of a choice in the blink of an eye as we do after agonizing over all of the options available. <br /><br />I wish the questions of life still had yes or no answers. I understand where you're coming from, but you know you'll make the right choice. The good news is, unlike the whole "There are no 'right' answers.." There are no wrong answers. The choices you make can't be bad/good because they make up your life. Luckily, the choices that can be bad/good (Buying a terrible tasting toothpaste that stains your teeth a light, decaying brown color all over) objectively, are tiny decisions in your life. <br /><br />I hope that helped/made sense/didn't sound completely off-the-wall. <br /><br />Sorry for the novel.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com