tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post1982059640808243879..comments2022-11-16T02:51:09.552-08:00Comments on Me, Myself, and Bride: Why is it so difficult getting gifts?Jenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10972465903387097782noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-13578026901813447312010-08-04T17:23:16.886-07:002010-08-04T17:23:16.886-07:00I don't think we're going to register, whi...I don't think we're going to register, which suits me just fine. There will only be 50 people at the Aussie wedding and they are all very close family and friends, so they'll either know what we like or be comfortable enough to ask us. Registries aren't big in Ireland and we're not carrying gifts back to Oz with us so that's a no-go too :)<br /><br />Stick with what you want- you guys are the ones who will be using and storing the stuff!Miss Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11831964957323606168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-36715563145298148532010-08-04T13:36:05.873-07:002010-08-04T13:36:05.873-07:00Yeah, in a lot of ways the traditional registry is...Yeah, in a lot of ways the traditional registry is out of date, as people are noting. It's not really the norm anymore (although of course it still happens) for couples to get married and then buy a home and live together in that home for the first time, thus needing all sorts of new stuff.<br /><br />I have a million thoughts about registries that I think I'll save for a blog post, but I wanted to say I totally empathize... and we've barely even gotten started.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-21493503300091086252010-08-04T12:59:00.370-07:002010-08-04T12:59:00.370-07:00Oh my goodness, talk about drama. I would sit down...Oh my goodness, talk about drama. I would sit down with said family members being pushy about the registry and explain. If they still don't get it after that, tell them that they may not agree, but they should respect your decision.Ms. Bunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06985820953743653787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-67822473155802242192010-08-04T09:52:38.057-07:002010-08-04T09:52:38.057-07:00Same story here, to the detail. We went with small...Same story here, to the detail. We went with small Target and Crate&Barrel registries filled with odds and ends, and then put this on our wedding website: <br /><br />"Wedding gifts are such a dilemma. We wanted to ignore the registry task altogether since we really don’t need anything, and will share a San-Diego-sized apartment.<br /><br />We promise, what we want most is simply your presence with us as we celebrate. That’s all.<br /><br />But we were told that wouldn’t do, so we have a small registry to finish out our kitchen dishes at Crate & Barrel and a few odds and ends at Target.<br /> <br />We’re also saving nickels for our honeymoon trip up the coast to Carmel and Monterey, a new sofa, and someday, someday, a house.<br /><br />If you would like to contribute any nickels to these larger wishes, we would be honored. You can click the button below or use the mail. But most of all we just want to see you!<br /><br />(link to Paypal, because I'm not paying 5%+ for some silly honeymoon registry)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-25140082880549284992010-08-04T09:43:17.779-07:002010-08-04T09:43:17.779-07:00I don't know if any of this will help you, but...I don't know if any of this will help you, but we used alternativeregistry.com so we could put intangible items on the registry too. Our parents have been spreading the word that our house is tiny (like teeny tiny) and we don't need or want lots of 'things'. I also included a little blurb on the registry (that I stole/borrowed from someone on the internets) that says:<br /><br />The absolute best and most wonderful gift you could possibly give us is your presence at our wedding! We really can't imagine anything better than being surrounded by all of our family and friends on our wedding day. <br /><br />I don't know. Hopefully they'll all include gift receipts and maybe you can get cash back instead of store credit.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-54606913784786212922010-08-04T09:14:25.415-07:002010-08-04T09:14:25.415-07:00We didn't get a whole lot of flack from our fa...We didn't get a whole lot of flack from our families, but we did get some very unwanted advice from the place where we registered. They kept insisting that we add things like china and silverware to our list. Now, cutlery, we need, but silverware, we do not. And we're 22, what the hell are we going to use china for? <br />Honestly, I say stick to your guns sister. I was second guessing myself after we did our registry because I was concerned people wouldn't have enough to choose from. But looking back, I'm glad we had a small registry because it's stuff we actually needed and wanted. The people who couldn't find something simply gave us money and for those who wanted to buy a gift but didn't want to use our registry... well, we got a bunch of nice, but entirely useless to us, things. If people complain, just tell them when you wrote, you have mostly everything you need and, if like us, you live in an apartment, that you don't have a ton of space to store the stuff you won't use until you purchase a home. Good luck!miss fancy pants (the bride)https://www.blogger.com/profile/11575834126606152875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-40643352139264362042010-08-04T07:35:49.967-07:002010-08-04T07:35:49.967-07:00Yes yes yes - same problems! We're both in our...Yes yes yes - same problems! We're both in our early 30s, and at this point have a lot of the "things" we need/want. We also live in a city apartment that has limited storage space. I don't want to register for something that is traditionally registered for just because I may use it in 5 years when we move. <br />We set up a honeymoon registry because that's what we really want. I don't understand these people who insist on giving "tangible" items or insisting you put something nicer on the list. Isn't it "our" registry?! <br /><br />But because of that, we set up a small registry for household items, and we scanned a handful of items (more than we even originally planned to) but I know it's not a big list at all and I'm just waiting to hear from people that it needs more items. <br /><br />Um. And we have white dishes. I figure you can always spice it up with your serving dishes, but like you said - the white goes with everything!SMKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12146785833753763163noreply@blogger.com