tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post3746007247666923219..comments2022-11-16T02:51:09.552-08:00Comments on Me, Myself, and Bride: Mom, sometimes you are crazy!Jenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10972465903387097782noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-85644600260740822342010-08-10T19:32:08.235-07:002010-08-10T19:32:08.235-07:00super impressed by this! I am responding to my cra...super impressed by this! I am responding to my crazy family by shutting my ringer off. I am taking the totally immature approachLisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16968993895571206033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-42326804388410186622010-08-10T17:36:13.203-07:002010-08-10T17:36:13.203-07:00Good plan!
My Mum is doing all of her stressing n...Good plan!<br /><br />My Mum is doing all of her stressing now, I think. She is too shy to get too involved on the day.Miss Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11831964957323606168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-12408502122171803252010-08-10T15:18:17.042-07:002010-08-10T15:18:17.042-07:00i am now forwarding these ideas to my own mother. ...i am now forwarding these ideas to my own mother. and with the MIL, i got nothing. :) i'm hoping Josh will be the one to get an earful of that.Angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07075148009608610305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-21454889270917228182010-08-10T08:31:05.387-07:002010-08-10T08:31:05.387-07:00@ Miss F.P, oh simplicity. I think its true that ...@ Miss F.P, oh simplicity. I think its true that the more I just say what I mean, the better it goes. Thanks!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10972465903387097782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-92100179704139934132010-08-10T08:29:31.071-07:002010-08-10T08:29:31.071-07:00Thanks, ladies!
@ KWu, definitely find those peop...Thanks, ladies!<br /><br />@ KWu, definitely find those people! I have one friend who I gave the job of 'buffer' for the day - to buffer stress away from me and help me stay sane.<br /><br />@ Ms Bunny, thanks! thats a good way to start the MIL conversation, thanks for the advice!<br /><br />@ Maura, I'm going to take that to heart and explain that to both my mom and my MIL. That this is not whim, all these details have been deliberated.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10972465903387097782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-27803653655366034932010-08-10T08:28:30.810-07:002010-08-10T08:28:30.810-07:00You're such a smartie. Talking things through ...You're such a smartie. Talking things through is probably the best thing you could do to head off wedding day homicide. As for your MIL, I say, try to do the same thing with her if possible. If you're not 100% comfortable bringing it up, maybe your husband to be could have a preliminary conversation with her and then you could talk to her solo. Or you could both talk to her about it. Just tell her what you told us, that you're just trying to prevent anyone from stressing on the wedding day, and hopefully she'll be as open about it as your mom was. Good luck!miss fancy pants (the bride)https://www.blogger.com/profile/11575834126606152875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-79317629092246132222010-08-10T08:00:04.364-07:002010-08-10T08:00:04.364-07:00Oh man. I could talk all night about some of the m...Oh man. I could talk all night about some of the mom issues I had. <br />I tried and tried to avoid any day of confrontations with her, but it didn't work. Which made me really sad. I didn't want to tell my mom on my wedding day that she wasn't helping me by not following my schedule. That I needed her to do what I asked, 100%. <br />I did have my girlfriends around me to help um, cajole my family members into place, to create a barrier between their stress and actions. <br /><br />But, I did find it helpful to talk with my mom about two weeks before the wedding. The issue is that she would do something 75% of the way I wanted her to. I had to explain that every teeny tiny detail and plan was the result of HOURS and HOURS of conversation between the husband and I. It wasn't a whim, it wasn't a shot in the dark, but serious thought and consideration. <br />It was one of the most stressful times for me. Not sure if this was helpful.. but I'm happy to email with you!maurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535909330499028032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-49691885082382471312010-08-10T07:54:32.733-07:002010-08-10T07:54:32.733-07:00Sitting down and talking about your freak out worr...Sitting down and talking about your freak out worries is really mature if you ask me. It's like heading off the problem before it arrives. I think just opening up the lines of communication is really the best thing you can do.<br /><br />With your MIL, perhaps ask her if there is anything she is extremely worried about, and then transition that into, let's figure out a plan to not freak out too.Ms. Bunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06985820953743653787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4911933650186002501.post-20745428627829018762010-08-10T07:28:05.099-07:002010-08-10T07:28:05.099-07:00I like your plan. My plan is more to surround myse...I like your plan. My plan is more to surround myself with people who will be willing to tell me gently that I need to go to my happy place and get some alone time if I start freaking out. I'm also trying to accept the possibility that some chaos is a bit inevitable but a little chaos doesn't mean the universe will end. I hope.KWuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04969442660664176005noreply@blogger.com